Woman Reports a Near-strangling

Milford Police have charged a 49-year-old man with attempted murder and three other charges early Wednesday, after they were called to a Grove Street apartment.

A 49-year-old man was arrested by Milford Police Wednesday and charged with attempted murder, in the near-strangling of his girlfriend.

Joao Soares De Souza, 49, of 84 Grove St., Apt. 1, Milford, is charged with felony attempted murder, domestic assault and battery, aggravated assault and battery with serious injury, as well as a prior warrant, according to a police dispatch log.

The woman called police about 5:40 a.m. Wednesday, and reported she had been "strangled by her boyfriend." The woman was at a location on South Main Street when she called authorities.

She did not require hospitalization for her injuries.

imokay November 16, 2011 at 10:16 PM
Was his prior warrant for driving without a license?
Mary MacDonald (Editor) November 16, 2011 at 10:21 PM
I picked this up a little late today, and so didn't make it to the courthouse. I'll find out tomorrow and will update...
imokay November 16, 2011 at 10:28 PM
Thank you Mary you are AWESOME! And thank you for all of your hard work =)
SomeoneOrSomething November 17, 2011 at 03:16 AM
@imokay... Glad to see others researching things... :)
Mark Cain November 17, 2011 at 11:49 AM
We also want to know his immigration status! Very important in these cases.
Andie November 17, 2011 at 12:55 PM
It says he " is charged with felony attempted murder, domestic assault and battery, aggravated assault and battery with serious injury." My question is why did this woman NOT need hospitalization? Seriously? With them charges? Was she seen by a dr at least? I hope she's not one of them women that want the charges dropped afterwards. I'd be interested to know what the prior warrant was for.
imokay November 17, 2011 at 02:03 PM
Andie it doesn't matter if she is one of those (not them) women who drop the charges because the police will still bring charges against him and maybe she went to the hospital on her own.
Mary MacDonald (Editor) November 17, 2011 at 02:21 PM
The charges are made by police, and then sometimes change in court when prosecuting attorneys make decisions about what to press ahead on. I've covered a city in the past where domestic violence prosecutions often went ahead without a cooperating victim. It's not unusual for victims to not want charges pressed against their partners or relatives, but prosecutors can still move ahead.
Andie November 17, 2011 at 04:57 PM
Thanks for the info. I was aware that the police can press charges but sometimes it doesn't work. They go free and the next thing you read about is that the victim is dead. My thinking was that it would be easier to convict if the victim is cooperative. BTW Thanks imokay for the English lesson. :-)
Mary MacDonald (Editor) November 17, 2011 at 05:59 PM
Well, as you predicted, in court today attorneys said the victim does not want a prosecution. But the attempted murder charge is still there, and the judge set a cash bail on him. I will stop by later when the file becomes available.
Jim Rizoli November 17, 2011 at 07:58 PM
Here is a domestic abuse problem that happens more than you think. The man likely and illegal alien, but that is not the point of my discussion here. I've found in my research that Foreign men treat their women horribly back home in their home country. When they come here the abuse doesn't stop but does make us Citizens take note because it's part of their culture to abuse women back home. With all the stress of them being here illegally it puts a lot of stress on the family and this is what happens. I would like to see some sort of classes provided (not on taxpayer money) for these families on how people should be treated here. Right now it's a free for all and people are being hurt and in some cases people are killed. Maybe the Brazilian Consulate would like to look into it more as this fella seems to be Brazilian. Jim@ccfiile.com
David Nolta November 17, 2011 at 09:42 PM
Jim, I know that you know that your assumption about this man's being illegal is at best unfounded and premature, and at worst undermines the other wise things you say. And make no mistake, there is and has been for centuries an ample tradition of spousal abuse among the legal citizens of this country. Classes yes, racism no!
MrMilford November 17, 2011 at 09:55 PM
Well said Dave. Jim, "The man likely and illegal alien" << [hmm insert funny "ironic" comment here] but I'll restrain myself :)
Mary MacDonald (Editor) November 17, 2011 at 09:58 PM
I just posted an update to the arraignment story that might shed some more light on this particular case, but I would agree here with David. Domestic violence is not something that's an immigrant issue alone. I had an editor in Florida who required us to document the cases in Jacksonville for one straight year, because she was tired of them going unreported (by the paper). It was eye-opening and sad.
Jim Rizoli November 17, 2011 at 10:13 PM
I'll put money on it! Any takers? Jim@ccfiile.com
David Nolta November 17, 2011 at 11:47 PM
Jim, if you're right, in this case, all that means is that an illegal alien has been accused of mistreating his companion (who may or may not also be illegal--but you seem less interested in speculating about the status of the victim). If you're wrong, all that means is that in this case, a legal citizen has mistreated his companion. What does the bad thing that has allegedly happened really have to do with immigration? You seem determined to perpetrate a false myth that illegals abuse each other more than American citizens. Now give us your proof--not your gut feeling, nor your gambler's instinct, but your proof. It isn't, in any case, something that we should be taking bets on--it's a tragedy, a HUMAN tragedy, not a silly game which might confirm or contradict your stereotypes of immigrants. And JUST IN CASE, I provide the usual proviso that I am against doing ANYTHING illegal. But I am equally against your stereotyping, pontificating, pre-judging.
Jim Rizoli November 18, 2011 at 12:36 AM
David Here is my reasoning for saying what I said.... No SANE American citizen (who could even be a legal Immigrant) would do that to a women! We all know what happens to abusers and for the guys particularly, the law comes down pretty hard on. So even though some American men are abusive most are not that stupid to try to kill their partner. It appears the illegal immigrants, being not to up on American laws, will do something as stupid as this. The status of the victim is pretty obvious, but my bets she will drop the whole thing. Not that that matters at this point in time. Another thing that happens too is some illegal immigrant women will falsely accuse their partner of being abusive. Why would they do that? They are able to get on the list of battered women and are then able to receive subsidized housing etc etc.....9and could even get a green card), then the women will have the "abuser" move back in with her. It's a big game the illegals have figured out and it works very well for them. If they get a three BR apt they will rent one BR out to other illegals (300.00-500.00 each) and put all the kids in the other BR. They get good money to do this, so they make out doubly. We the nice Americans are paying for it all. Jim@ccfiile.com
Jennifer November 18, 2011 at 02:09 AM
Jim-just so you know, one of the populations with the highest domestic abuse rate is actually that of the US Armed Forces (Army, Marine, Navy, etc.)...how about those "sane Americans". just thought it was an interesting fact you can store away.. BTW-I haven't forgotten about out blog, life has just been too crazy to have time to respond in depth-which I think you and your both deserve, I'll respond soon.
Jim Rizoli November 18, 2011 at 02:44 AM
Good point! Look at what they have to deal with. No human should have to undergo that type of stress. Which just shows that stress in people lives can cause many problems. The stress the military people have deal with is a different type of stress. It's really mental exhaustion, mental break down where as the illegals stress is because they are doing something they know is wrong and are afraid of getting caught. About the blog....no hurry...but we do have some good stuff for you. Jim@ccfiile.com
David Nolta November 18, 2011 at 03:04 AM
What you call your reasoning is circular: an American would have to be insane to abuse a woman, therefore it must be an illegal alien (because a sane illegal would somehow be the equivalent of an insane American???). Like it or not Jim, many legal citizens abuse their spouses, and few of them, despite your blanket diagnosis, are certifiably "insane" What you seem to mean is that it strikes you as crazy to beat your spouse, or anyone. That is an admirable viewpoint, and on that we agree. But how you leap from there into your list of all things illegal will remain one of the great mysteries of the Milford Patch. And "the status of the victim is pretty obvious"--what are you talking about? FACTS FIRST. Then generalizations, if you must, though I am against that.
SomeoneOrSomething November 18, 2011 at 04:24 AM
Hrm... I believe this is more about a man abusing a woman... not about immigration status.
Jennifer November 19, 2011 at 12:25 PM
Jim- Actually the Military has come out to say that almost half of the abuse does not involve deployed soldiers... and IMO, stress is stress, and stress (or mental exhaustion) is NOT an excuse for ANYONE (legal or illegal) to abuse another person...in essence what you've said is that it's "ok" to abuse someone if you have the excuse of stress or mental exhaustion, which is not true. For Example: I'm a Military wife, and I'm stressed and exhausted most of the time, but that doesn't EVER give me the right to beat my husband, my dogs, my child, a friend, someone walking down the street, etc, etc.
Jennifer November 19, 2011 at 12:57 PM
and just out of curiosity...do you know how many AMERICAN woman do exactly the same thing you're complaining about? you're talking about abuse of the system...and that's not an "immigration issue"


More »
Got a question? Something on your mind? Talk to your community, directly.
Note Article
Just a short thought to get the word out quickly about anything in your neighborhood.
Share something with your neighbors.What's on your mind?What's on your mind?Make an announcement, speak your mind, or sell somethingPost something
See more »